I felt compelled to write you today because the feeling I woke up with was so palpable and passion-filled that I knew I needed to share it.
The essence of the feeling was that of the possibility and potential for UNLIMITED SUCCESS and FULFILLMENT that exists in every one of us.
Okay, I can already see you making that face of ‘Here he goes into some positive thinking tirade’, but hold on a moment… I’m going to bring this out of the ‘theory’ realm and into ‘concrete reality’ fast.
As some of you already know, I was on FOX NEWS last week talking about “How to Stay Focused in a Multi-Tasking World”.
The experience was exhilarating because every time I break through to an new level of success in my life, it’s like I have to walk through a ring of fire to get to the other side.
There is this fear (of the unknown and of ‘messing up’) AND a ‘no turning back’ mindset that always turns into an explosion of power and energy within me when I complete the experience.
It’s what happened after my first spoken word performance in New York City, my first concert at the Troubadour when I was in a rock/hip hop band, the first time I got up and did an hour long speech to a large audience as a coach/business trainer, my first webinar, and now my first LIVE TV appearance on the NEWS.
So where am I going with this? The ONLY WAY I was able to achieve any of these goals was to FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAYS (great book by the way).
As Bob Proctor calls it, I had to break through a “Terror Barrier” to reach the other side of these life changing experiences.
Okay, the comfort zone, the comfort zone. You’ve heard it a million times. “You’ve got to get out of your comfort zone”. There’s nothing ground breaking about that statement.
But HOW MUCH do YOU actually follow what it’s saying?
How uncomfortable are you?
And why is it that we MUST FEEL DISCOMFORT (and it can show up as pain, anger, fright, irritation and many other manifestations) TO GROW BIGGER??
Why exactly is it that we MUST feel those things to create the success we want in life?
Why do they say, “Do something that scares you every day” or “everything you want in life exists right beyond the edge of your comfort zone”??
The reason is this: IN REALITY WE ARE UNSTOPPABLE. NOTHING IS OUT OF OUR REACH (honestly)… but what does stop us is OURSELVES… OUR WORRIES, OUR INSECURITIES, OUR SELF DOUBT, OUR ‘NOT KNOWING HOW’ CONCEPT (which is really fear in disguise), OUR EMOTIONS!
Bottom line: WE stop OURSELVES from success BECAUSE IT SCARES US.
Therefore we must be willing to be uncomfortable BECAUSE THAT EMOTION (OF DISCOMFORT) IS THE ONLY THING THAT’S ACTUALLY IN THE WAY FROM WHAT WE WANT.
That’s the final frontier. But the break-through is not “OUT THERE”. It’s “IN HERE”. Not in ‘outer space’ but ‘Inner Space’.
I used to hate the feelings of discomfort I felt it when I first started my business. I would pace my office, uncomfortable from head to toe because I knew I had to make calls to create business and I didn’t want to.
But I had an accountability partner and he was going to rip me a new one if I didn’t come through and I used that as a lever to take the necessary actions to grow my business. Years and years I felt that feeling. Butterflies lived in my stomach.
But what’s crazy now is that those “little” fears I felt then are so small now it’s funny to me and there are ‘bigger’ fears I have my sights on now. It’s not “I hope this person doesn’t reject me when I offer my coaching services”, it’s “I hope I can sell out this event”, or “I hope I don’t screw up on National television”.
I could never have gotten to these ‘bigger’ fears without going through the ‘smaller’ ones.
I used to feel like I was done growing. Not any more. NOW I LOVE GROWING, AND I WELCOME IT DAILY (THE DISCOMFORT TOO).
What about you? Are you growing and expanding at the pace you want to? Are you taking enough risks and feeling the fear and doing it anyways? Are you “sweating the small stuff” or are you going full out, day in and day out?
Your best life awaits you. It’s only a matter of declaring your highest vision (what you want most) as truth and walking boldly in the direction of it daily and then allowing yourself to keep walking forward even when your fear levels rise to almost unmanageable levels.
You’ll be ok. In fact once you get through whatever ring of fire is in front of you, you’ll feel AMAZING.